This spring HBO introduced a new drama, “Big Love“, about a polygamous family in Utah. The father, three wives, and seven children live a rather sheltered life, in fear that their neighbors or someone will turn them over to the police. The family would then be split up, the parents would go to jail, and the kids to foster homes – all because the practice of polygamy is illegal.
So here’s what I don’t get – If you go around screwing lots of women, making babies with multiple partners and neglecting them all, it’s perfectly fine. Now if you begin to start taking care of those women and they all live under one roof voluntarily, it’s polygamy and you’re to goto jail. Makes no sense whatsoever.
Polygamy is a voluntary agreement between multiple people, however sometimes you hear about these 15-year old girls with 70-year old men. You hear about the one unemployed guy with 15 wives and 50 kids living in a shack, ripping off the state over welfare benefits. You hear about these women who are basically enslaved and beaten, they’re forbidden to leave their husbands. But it’s the same situation as the prostitutes, they become enslaved because the practice is illegal and they can’t go to the police.
As a firm believer in seperatation of church and state, I am against the state’s involvement in marriage. Marriage is a religious sacrament. But in today’s world, marriage is no longer one man and one woman – and even though I disagree with polygamy, I can’t understand why it shouldn’t be one of the socially and legally acceptable forms of marriage.